A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, I think I used to make New Year’s resolutions. Don’t hold it against me, peer and social pressure have a way of influencing us to do things that we don’t like or aren’t completely convinced will work. I’ll just chalk it up to that.
I’m not quite sure just when I realized how fruitless those resolutions had become. It may have worked backwards, discovering the ineffectiveness of resolutions in other areas of my life, at least once a year resolutions.
Now, I’m all for wanting to improve and get better, but my aversion to New Year’s resolutions is just like my aversion to annual reviews in the work world. If you aren’t having a conversation about the things that need to be changed and reformed throughout the year, why do you think in one hour’s time, you’re going to make a long-lasting change?
I like course corrections. I like to change on the fly. I like to find out how we can do better as we are still moving forward. I don’t think that it requires a specific day of the year. In the case of annual work reviews, if your boss isn’t telling you what he or she needs from you as you’re moving along, then your boss sucks! And if you aren’t telling yourself the things that you need to course correct as you are moving through the year…..well, then, you know the rest.
Why don’t we set up quarter year resolutions or even half year resolutions? Why New Year’s resolutions? Doesn’t it make more sense to just do regular check-ins to see where you are so you can know what has to change as you go? It seems that it would be much more effective, at least it has been for me.
I’m all for resolutions, just not big annual ones. What if we resolved some things together?
Let’s resolve to find some people who will tell us what needs changing as we’re making mistakes.
Let’s resolve to choose a few things to work on so that we don’t feel overwhelmed in our improvements.
Let’s resolve to encourage others and find those who will encourage us when we and they see changes that have been made.
Let’s resolve that honesty, though sometimes painful, is going to sting less when it comes sooner than later.
Let’s resolve that every day we are alive, we are given the gift of starting fresh with the new morning mercies of God’s love.
Now, these are some resolutions that I can get into. I could probably come up with a whole lot more, but I like to start small. Start small, gain a few little victories, and then go from there.
Here’s to 2019! And here’s to resolving our resolutions, making a point to resolve ourselves and be resolved as we go.