Everywhere we look, we are bombarded by sex. It seems that our culture may be obsessed by sex considering the way that it comes at us from every angle. Television shows. Movies. Music. Media. There is no escaping the issue, for us or our children. The things that might once have been forbidden to speak of have become common place.
Children are maturing faster, physically and emotionally. The landscape of sexuality is not for the faint of heart and addressing the subject with your children will happen one way or another. Either you can be up front and frank with them or they’ll find the answers on their own through the things they watch and listen to or from the people around them.
Jonathan McKee takes on the subject of sex with his hard hitting and brief book “Sex Matters.” It’s just long enough that a kid can sit down and read through it in an evening or two. But don’t let the length fool you, it’s packed with challenging and helpful information. McKee shares helpful insights from reputable resources to emphasize his point that many (or most) young people are engaging in sexual activities.
McKee’s companion book for parents is called “More Than Just the Talk” (check out my review here). “Sex Matters” is a synopsis of the material that he covers in that book but specifically geared towards youth. Within the book, McKee isn’t afraid to tackle head on some of the difficult questions that Christian teens may be asking. He addresses the questions “Why wait” and “How far is too far” and other questions as well.
McKee doesn’t sidestep issues here, he uses language that makes sense for young people, even to the point of discomfort. He doesn’t try to dance around issues with cute language, instead choosing to call things what they are and being fairly explicit and clear in addressing the issue of sex. In fact, he shares with humor about some of the uncomfortable language that was used when he was a youth and just how awkward some of that language was.
McKee isn’t afraid to address subjects like pornography, masturbation, and even same sex attraction. He shares his own experiences in a very personal and humorous way. He admits to his own shortcomings while calling youth to do things differently. He is honest and frank, funny and challenging. An honest reader will come away having felt challenged to, at the very least, ask the tough questions that McKee poses within the book.
This book is meant to be read by youth. There may be some parents who don’t want to be quite as frank as McKee in how he addresses the subject of sex, but softening the message and the importance of the language will not make more safe a subject that can be dangerous if not addressed properly. This is an important read, for both youth and their parents. It’s a quick read and packs a punch, especially for the amount of investment necessary.
Pick up a copy and share it with the young people that mean the most to you.
(This review is based upon a copy of this book which was provided free of charge from Bethany House. These opinions are my own; I was not required to write a positive review, nor was I compensated for this review.)