I was getting my car fixed the other day and I walked up to a local coffee shop. While en route, I passed this sign and it made me pause. I kind of scratched my head and thought about it a bit and just hung my head sadly as I felt like it was false advertising of a sort.
$189 for a divorce? Fast and affordable? You’d think that we were talking about a power-washing for your home or something like that, not the end of a commitment, the end of a covenant and vow that was made between two people. Is this really all that it will cost if someone decides that they want to get divorced?
I would venture to guess that anyone who had been through a divorce, if asked if this were the price, would say that the price was far greater than this. It might depend on how much was involved. Are there kids? Is there a house and property? How much valuable property and material do you have? What kinds of emotional costs are involved? For you both as well as the kids?
In fact, not too long ago, I did a book review of a friend’s book about his own experience with divorce. Having talked to him and read his book, I’m not sure that he would say that his divorce was fast, affordable, and only cost him $189 (you can see the post here). While there was a redemptive effect from the divorce and while he learned an awful lot, it certainly wasn’t without cost and fast and affordable were most likely not among the adjectives to use to describe the process.
In the West, it seems that we’re very much about the “bottom line.” How much will this cost me? Unfortunately, I don’t think that you can fit on a sign just how much it costs to go through a divorce, and I wonder if you can really put a monetary value on so many of the things that are lost. I can assure you that anyone who has gone through it might beg to differ that it only cost them $189.
When we present things in such a simplistic way and offer no possible options, we diminish the impacts of it. Rarely are things as cut and dry as they are presented as in advertisements. Rarely does anyone who seeks to gain a profit count the cost of that which they are trying to bypass in order to gain a buck.
What do you think? Does this seem like a really good idea, a bargain even? Guess I’m going to ask some of my friends who have been through this kind of heartache whether or not they think you can get through it with such a cheap and affordable price tag. In this day and age of instant gratification, I wonder how often we really do count the cost to do our best to foresee the implications of what we do. If we stopped to make that assessment, I wonder how many of our decisions would be altered for the better.