Once upon a time, people used to listen to the radio, and it wasn’t Sirius, Pandora, Spotify, or any other digital radio station. There were antennas and dials and you had to try to figure out how to get the station you wanted the best that you possibly could. It was always an exercise to try to dial in the frequency. If there was bad weather or too much wind, it would be hard to capture the station you were looking for.
As I think about trying to dial in a radio station, I think that people are not too much different. We’ve always got to tweak the dial to get the clearest reception on a person. It takes time and patience and if there are too many “storms” in the area, we might not be able to hear the “station” clearly. So, we try and try and try some more until we can finally dial it in as clearly as possible.
Each and every one of us seems to have our own frequency. We’re not like Sirius or Pandora where everything comes in crystal clear all the time, we need to be tweaked and fiddled with until the signal is as clear as possible. Things in our lives add interference that prevents others from hearing our signal. Our jobs or our marriages might be causing some difficulty that prevents us from being heard clearly. Life changes and events have a way of creeping up on us and causing a disruption of the signal. When those times come, it takes a little more effort to hear what’s really going on in our hearts.
How clear is your frequency? How easily can you be understood and heard? What kinds of things are adding interference to your signal?
My own experience has taught me that there are always at least 2 sides to every story. When someone reacts in a way that seems out of character or out of the ordinary, we have to turn the dial and find out how to clearly listen to the signal that’s coming through. There’s so much more than static there, if we just take the time to listen and hear what’s going on.
We move around so quickly that it’s hard for us to really take that time that we need to take to invest in people and dig deeper with them. It’s not something that will happen in a 30 second conversation, we need to tweak the dial and exercise patience to find out what signal is really coming through. My patience goes against me in situations like these, I want desperately to find another station, one that’s more easily tuned in, one that won’t take so much work, but what about the station right in front of me? Am I dialing it in?
We will be handed all kinds of challenges in life, those challenges will produce interference in our lives, making it hard for someone to tune into our signal. I have been the beneficiary of those who spent the time tweaking the dial to get a clear signal, I can only hope that I can do the same with others.